10 Things to Stop Doing if There is a Possibility of You Cheating in Your Relationship
As we all know, cheating isn't a good thing in a relationship or marriage. No one likes it when they realise their partner has cheated on them. If you see yourself as a person who can be tempted to cheat on your spouse, then you must stop doing these things. Continuing these behaviors will end up hurting your spouse, your family, your marriage, and ultimately, yourself.
1. Stop Ignoring Problems
Stop avoiding talking with your spouse about problems in your marriage. All marriages have some issues to deal with but dealing with them in healthy ways can help keep your marriage on a sound foundation.
2. Stop Meeting With Old Flames
Stop connecting and spending an inappropriate amount of time with an old flame in person and/or online. If you don't think you can avoid be tempted by someone from your past or someone you meet on Facebook or other social media, then delete your accounts. Your marriage is more important than these "old friends."
Dr. Susan Heitler: "If you don't want to catch fire, stay far from the sparks. They are fun and often prove too dangerous to be worth the mini-delights of minor sexual pleasures. The two highest risk categories for dangerous connections are old flames and current business associates, especially ones that you spend a lot of time with."
3. Stop Flirting
Stop flirting with someone who is not your spouse. You may think flirting is just fun and won't hurt anyone, but your flirting may progress to something more.
4. Stop "Harmless" Meetings
Stop having "innocent" and "harmless" lunch dates with someone you work closely with. Saying that the meetings are work-related is stretching the truth. You know these dates can lead to an extra-marital affair.
Dr. Susan Heitler: "[There's] too much time working closely together, in private spaces, taking a break and talking about personal matters, and also travel which makes too much time away from the spouse and from the restraints of normal family routines."
5. Stop Pretending
Stop pretending you are not married. There are valid reasons for not wearing a wedding ring, but if you remove your ring to hide the fact that you are married, you are being dishonest and playing games.
6. Stop Telling Lies
Stop telling lies to your spouse. The sense of betrayal and being lied to is often unforgivable for many people and may be so for your mate.
7. Stop Confiding
Stop confiding personal intimate details about your marriage with someone else. The only people other than your spouse who should hear details about your relationship with your spouse are a counselor or a priest, pastor, rabbi, etc.
8. Stop Escaping
Stop wanting to be away from home. Face into what you are escaping and why. Deal with the issues. Don't run away from them into the arms of someone else.
9. Stop Sharing Feelings
Stop sharing more of your feelings, problems, and dreams with your "friend" than you do with your spouse. Sure, sharing how you feel is generally a good idea, but when you keep your spouse in the dark about what is going on with you, you aren't being fair or faithful. Emotional intimacy often leads to a sexual affair.
10. Stop Blaming
Stop blaming your spouse for lack of sex in your marriage or for your marriage being in a rut. You need to accept your responsibility for problems in your marriage. If you cheat on your spouse, you have no one to blame but yourself. You, and you alone, made the decision to be unfaithful.
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