10 Phrases That will Always Get Your Man in The Mood

These statements will always get your man in that lovely, romantic and sexual mood.

1. I have a surprise for later

A toddler lights up when he hears the word surprise, so does your guy, because it ignites anticipation in his brain, says Ian Kerner, Ph.D.. "He'll instantly begin thinking of all the things you could surprise him with, which will start foreplay hours before you're together." As far as the surprise itself? You know what gets your husband going—lingerie, role-play, or even just an empty house—so follow your instincts.

2. Tonight I am taking care of you

Give and take is essential in relationships, but sometimes an evening of total giving (followed by a future evening of him returning the favor, of course) can be an incredible turn-on. Not only will your husband feel taken care of, but it's a subtle reminder that you still find him so sexy that you can't wait to spend an entire evening lavishing attention on him, says Kerner.

3. You smelled amazing this morning

It sounds simple, but hinting at how hot you find your man immediately gets him in the mood, agree three husbands we interviewed. The actual attribute doesn't matter, but all say they love when their wives notice something specific about their appearance. And even if you complimented him as he left the house, giving him another reminder a few hours later makes it clear he's still on your mind, says Aline Zoldbrod, a certified sex therapist in the Boston area. And get specific: Noting that he wore your favorite aftershave or that his blue sweater showed off his triathlon-toned shoulders subtly shows you notice all the details.

4. The coffee guy hit on me today

Charlie, 40, married four years, gets a bit of a thrill when he hears about the ongoing flirtation between his wife and the neighborhood barista. He knows it's not going anywhere, but he loves that the college kid behind the counter finds his wife attractive. A little harmless flirting can enhance your relationship, because it reminds your husband that you're desirable and that he's the one lucky enough to be with you, says Jean Fitzpatrick, Ph.D., a marriage counselor and psychotherapist in New York City. The trick is choosing someone relatively anonymous and innocuous like the barista—telling him your coworker was hitting on you can needlessly ignite jealousy.

5. Bring home a bottle of wine tonight

Or a pint of Ben & Jerry's. Or the ridiculously unhealthy but so delicious pasta carbonara from your favorite Italian joint. Whatever it is, there's a reason why food has become so intertwined with sex, and it has very little to do with any aphrodisiacal qualities. By setting the tone for an indulgent evening in every way, you help put both of you in a relaxed, pampering frame of mind.

6. Doesn't this make me look hot?

You know that black pencil skirt makes you look the opposite of fat or frumpy, but you're still craving a compliment. Instead of insulting yourself to get it, let your husband know just how attractive you feel. "Confidence is a major aphrodisiac," says Kerner. And when you show it, he'll definitely keep that skirt—and what's underneath it—on his mind.

7. I Keep thinking about the time you did______

Reminding your husband of a specific scene from the past sets his mind racing for future encounters, says Kerner. Talking through favorite memories can also help you come away with new insight into what you both like, as well as dream up ways to improve. Who says practice doesn't make perfect?

8. I need you

Want and need are primal words that remind your guy of the animal attraction you share, says Emily Morse, host of the radio show Sex with Emily and author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. It's dirty talk without the dirty words, and it's especially effective whispered in his ear when other people are around, says Neal, 34, married six years.

9. I've missed you

"My wife says this to me even when we've just been apart during the workday," says David, 37, married three years. "It's goofy, but it puts a huge smile on my face because I've missed her too." Having a code phrase that reminds you both how in love you are can serve as a sort of shorthand for your feelings, says Ellen Kenner, Ph.D.

10. Thank you, (smiling in a very sexy way)

A little appreciation—even about G-rated stuff like packing the kids' lunches—can go a long way. "I know my wife has a lot on her plate, so I want to help her out," says Russ, 35, married five years. "When it works, it makes me feel like, yes, we're a team." And that holds true in and out of the bedroom.

Credit: Anna Davies

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